Choosing my wedding ring at Mirri Damer, Falmouth


Choosing my wedding ring at Mirri Damer, Falmouth

One of the first decisions made for our wedding was made solely by John when he purchased my engagement ring. It was a decision that could only have been his, as the romantic in me always believed the engagement ring should be the proposer’s choice. In choosing an engagement ring by Mirri Damer, he inadvertently chose the designer of my wedding ring too. 

Ironically traditional to begin with, we’re now starting to break away from tradition when it comes to choosing our wedding bands, but (eventually) I’ve decided to choose the same designer as my engagement ring. Starting my search early, I had casually visited high street jewellers, boutique jewellers and even tried on the wedding rings of my friends – just to discover my preference. No ring ever suited the style of my engagement ring, or felt unique enough for my taste. 

In the midst of this search, my parents offered me my grandmother’s wedding band. Made from Welsh gold, it’s a striking contrast to my white gold engagement ring when placed beside it. In its current form, it’s mismatched in style but perfectly matched in sentiment. After a phone call with Mirri Damer’s studio, I was convinced of a solution and a visit to Mirri Damer, Falmouth, was on the cards.

Stepping into the cocoon of Mirri Damer’s studio shop, on Falmouth’s High Street, we entered to see mid-century furniture juxtaposed with mustard furnishings and flanked with yellow roses: my favourite colour and flowers. We had time to browse the collection before Mirri arrived and introductions were made. 

Mirri, an internationally acclaimed designer and Libertines fan, relocated to Cornwall to start her business in 2005. She now works from her shop, in a studio adorned with Frida Kahlo. After discovering we both share a  love of cinnamon buns and coffee, we sat down to discuss the design of my wedding band. I explained how John had chosen her rosebud design in 2014 and showed Mirri my favourite pieces from her current collection.

We also discussed the heirloom rings that I had brought: my grandmother’s wedding ring and my mum’s engagement ring, from her first marriage to my father, which I inherited on my 21st birthday. Mirri and I discussed how the heirloom rings could be reinvented to make a set of two new wedding bands that would fit perfectly and nestle my engagement ring between them. Calling on John to help me make key decisions, we eventually decided on the two bands and surprisingly, it was easier than either of us expected. 

I know what you may be thinking, two new wedding bands? Well, I did mention that we’re starting to buck tradition. One wedding band will be timeless, made from heirloom jewellery and able to be worn alone, or with my engagement ring or the final ring. The third ring will be a stylish choice to add extra emphasis to the stack. Each will be able to be worn alone, or together, or in different combinations. 

I’d like to think John and I’s approach is true to our personal style, but incorporates my belief in being sustainable. I couldn’t have asked for a better experience when choosing my wedding rings and I’m so excited to see the end designs!

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  • How exciting! Dr W is such a scaredy when it comes to buying jewellery for me, I think we’d end up picking rings together!

    • Donna Pilling

      It’s sensible! Definitely sensible!

  • victoria62

    What a lovely story. Wish I could have a better story than going into an Ernest Jones and us saying these will do.

    • Donna Pilling

      Ahhh, that raised a smile – but do you love your bands?

    • Haha, same. It just wasn’t in the budget at that point in our lives. I’m actually now in the position where I can’t wear my wedding ring due to weight gain though, so reading your post Donna is filling me with ideas for the future! x

  • Hungry_Healthy_Happy

    It’s something you will wear for a long time, so it really is a big decision that should take some time.

    • Donna Pilling

      You’re right. It frightens me how quickly I decided!

  • Hayley Smith

    I love the idea of them incorporating your heirloom rings into it, what a lovely way to do it! My husband did not pick my engagement ring – he was too scared but he did get down on one knee, he knew that was a deal breaker for me 😉

    • Donna Pilling

      Well, we have to wear them for a very long time! As long as he went down on one knee…swoon!

  • Kezzie

    That sounds an exciting story! So are they melting down the two heirloom rings to make the new ones?
    I also inherited my Mum’s engagement ring from her first marriage to my dad for my 21st! I chose to wear mine as my Engagement ring as I told CBC if he was ever going to propose to me, that he must not buy me a ring as I had 2 heirloom rings I didn’t wear and it might make me wear one! Ha ha, I wore it for a week and couldn’t bear it any more!!x

    • Donna Pilling

      Yes Kezzie, exactly that! Melting down the gold for the band and picking the diamonds for each of the new bands. Yes! I always said to John I’d use one of my heirloom rings as I thought I wanted vintage. Turns out, he knew me best and I adore Mirri Damer’s work now! Where did your new rings come from?

  • What a great idea, and so current I bet you are so excited to see them all together, she sounds like a wonderful designer that really got what you wanted x

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